According to a 4,person survey by the sex toy company Lovehoney , 89 percent of couples have orgasmed at the same time, 37 percent do half the time or more, and the average couple orgasms simultaneously once every three times they're intimate. Those numbers sound absurdly high to you? They did to us too—and sex therapist Vanessa Marin, who teaches an online course about orgasms called Finishing School , thinks they should be way lower. A Lovehoney rep tells us the data were collected through the company's social media accounts and emails to customers, so it's possible the high proportion of sex toy users in the sample biased the results, especially since 95 percent of the women said they found it easier to orgasm with toys. To get more clarity, we asked Marin how attainable simultaneous orgasms really are, how you can achieve them, and whether you even should.
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Is it possible to have orgasms at the same time as your partner?
There's still a great deal of misunderstanding about the subject of simultaneous orgasm — which is when a couple achieve a climax at the same time. I've found that a lot of people think that both men and women are supposed to reach orgasm at the same moment every single time they have sex but, alas, in reality this just isn't true. The notion that simultaneous orgasm is the norm is simply a myth that's been created over the years by hundreds of romantic novels and erotic stories. The result of all this misunderstanding is that women get the impression that something is 'wrong' with them, which isn't the case at all. The truth is that, while simultaneous orgasms are nice, they are difficult to achieve - especially when you're young. When people talk about 'coming at the same time', they generally mean during intercourse, but climaxing during sex itself is actually far from easy. Up until the late s, few experts realised this.
This is how many couples actually achieve 'shared orgasms' - and how you can do it
The pursuit of sexual pleasure is a key motivating factor in sexual activity. Many things can stand in the way of sexual orgasms and enjoyment, particularly among women. These are essential issues of sexual well-being and gender equality. This study presents long-term trends and determinants of female orgasms in Finland. In Finland, five national sex surveys that are based on random samples from the central population register have been conducted.
Registered in Ireland: In Hollywood, all a man has to do is thrust once or twice and his celluloid partner begins to writhe in orgasmic ecstasy. That is because on-screen sex is synchronised, meaning that orgasms are always simultaneous, and no one ever needs instruction.