Cheating can be one of the most destructive actions you can take in a relationship. It destroys trust, and trust is often very hard to rebuild. Everyone knows this but people cheat anyway. In my practice over the past 30 years, I have seen scores of couples who have come into counseling because of an affair or repeated affairs. Recovering from breaches of trust is very difficult, and so the work is much harder than it would be if they came into therapy before an affair.
What To Do After He Cheats and You Can't Stop Obsessing About The Other Woman
Why can’t I forget my husband’s affair?
Verified by Psychology Today. The Moral Molecule. I presented evidence that though the male brain is made to bond with a mate and raise children, the male genitalia suggest a high degree of sexual infidelity in our lineage. Many social, religious , and philosophical traditionally prohibit adultery because they implicitly understand that having sex , which releases the bonding hormone oxytocin, can cause us to want to be with a sexual partner more and more, leading to family disharmony. Insufficient oxytocin release is one reason for cheating.
5 Men Who Cheated Reveal Why It Was the Best Thing They’ve Ever Done
Here's rule number one of having a successful relationship: Don't cheat. Yes, that was Captain Obvious talking. But, there is a controversial exception to this rule. Some men say that having an affair actually saved or strengthened their relationship. D, author of Chatting or Cheating.
Some years ago, my husband had an affair. It had been going on for six months when I found out. We have great times together he tells me all the time he loves me and that he can't believe how lucky he is to still have me. We don't talk about the affair these days.